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There she is, she’s perfect and she’s everything you’ve ever wanted in a woman. This is the exact thought that runs through your mind when you see a seemingly flawless girl in public. Now whether she is truthfully flawless or not can’t be determined at this time. However, it could be decided within even a two minute conversation with this beautiful being. The only issue is that you’re too afraid and intimidated to actually approach her, and engage in some type of conversation. This right here, this is called approach anxiety. Don’t worry because there is plenty of Support for Anxiety.
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This is an issue that many men and women are faced with on a day to day basis. The human being is so crippled with approach anxiety today, and to most it is very frustrating. Think of how many times you’ve thought to yourself, “I really wish I talked to her”. For many this is a daily occurrence, and a lot of people have just accepted this as life. Why are we like this? you might ask. It can be blamed on a various number of underlying issues. A big one in today’s society is the mass use of technology and social networks. To put this into perspective, twenty years ago no one had modern-day technology to communicate with one another. They simply had to take control of a situation and engage themselves personally. Nowadays, people are inclined to only speak to strangers from the comfort of their mobile device. Smartphones, computers, tablets, etc. have become dental dam contraceptives (look it up) for society. After all the innovations in technology, who would have thought that speaking to one another would become such a traumatizing task?
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Luckily for us, the solution is very easy and reasonable. All you have to do is put down your verbal chastity belt and turn your cell phone off. ‘Cause you, young man, you are going to talk to girls, yes…real girls. Even though this may seem like a daunting task, it’s really just as simple as it sounds. Engaging others in a conversation is not only exciting for you, it is equally exciting for them. Just remember that next time you approach a girl, don’t overthink the situation and just take it for what it actually is: A…SIMPLE…CONVERSATION. Since most people tend to psyche themselves out, their fear and anxiety usually overcome them before they can even say hi.
A few good tactics to use when approaching people are as follows:
- Essentially block out all recognition of what you are about to do, until you mutter the words “hello”. This means, don’t think about what you are going to say until you say it. If you put too much thought into it, you will be guaranteed to freeze and intimidate yourself. So next time you want to talk to someone, just walk up and do it, don’t say “what if”.
- Put into perspective, how little or MAJOR this will affect your life. If this conversation goes bad in a hurry and she tells you to get lost, will you ever see her again? No, not likely, and the chances of her remembering you are slim to none. So this will affect your life on a very minimal scale. However, let’s just say you two hit it off and exchange numbers. After some talking you decide to go on a date; whether this goes well or poorly is irrelevant. What’s relevant is that by engaging yourself in this conversation with a stranger, you managed to make a possibly large positive impact on your life.
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This is why it is very important to not judge your surroundings based on appearance, and actually throw yourself into scenarios with strangers. Undoubtedly, some will go well and some will go badly, but the point is that you applied yourself to find out what might happen. However, by doing this more often, you won’t have as many doubts about “What if I talked to her”. Now to broaden your horizons, also keep in mind that this lesson is much larger than meeting women. By talking to random people daily, you could happen to make a connection for a future job by expanding your social network. People often say, “It’s not what you know, it’s who you know”, so by knowing more people it can only improve your chances of making lifelong connections. Your challenge this week is simple, talk to one stranger a day. That’s it. Ask them how their day was, and who knows, you may potentially just end up becoming the highlight of it.
